Exploring the Pleasures: How to Use a Vibrator During Sex
PUBLISHED
Oct 18, 2023
AUTHOR
Grace Guan
Trying new things can be hard. Trying new things with other people can be even harder. When it comes to sex, introducing new things can be extra nerve racking. But, if you’re curious about using a vibrator during sex here’s a rundown to heat things up and keep things interesting with your partner.
But before we jump ahead, let’s get into the facts about vibrators. Did you know that the first vibrator was created in 1869? They originally used it as a medical treatment for “hysteria” (a word that’s got a long history behind it). When women would go to the doctor with symptoms of anxiety and depressions they would use vibrators to help women climax to help alleviate them. They’ve come a long way, and they’re effective since only 18-20% of people report they can reach climax through penetrative sex. But don’t worry the number jumps to 36.6% when clitoral stimulation is involved. There’s a misconception that using a vibrator desensitizes intimate parts but that’s untrue! It’s actually linked to better health! People who use vibrators tend to have better sexual health and function – being more likely to visit the OB-GYN and self examine. So, if you need any other reason to use yours, here it is.
When it comes to partnered sex, there’s a misconception about vibrators is that they’re meant for solo play only. While they are a great way to get started with self-exploration and understanding your needs, they’re a wonderful addition to the bedroom and can be a lot of fun for all parties involved. It can be super beneficial for your relationship and keep things interesting while maintaining desire in the and helping you grow closer to your partner.
One thing that could come up if you want to bring this topic up are insecurities since most people think vibrators are meant for masturbation. That’s why it’s important to be open and communicate with your partner that this is something that will add to your sex lives rather than supplement it. Another thing that can make your partner reluctant to explore is not knowing how to use a vibrator during sex. This is where communication is key! Guiding your partner verbally can be very sexy and strengthen your connection and create a deeper understanding of what works for each other.
Understanding Different Types of Vibrators
Now that we’ve covered our bases on why vibrators are great for you and your partner, here are the different types and what they’re good for:
Clitoral Vibrators
Since the clitoris has the highest density of nerve endings, the easiest way to reach an orgasm is through stimulating the clit. You can go with something more discreet like Fonder’s mini device Swish with 10 vibrating modes, or something more targeted like external massager the Wave, which features a pointed tip for maximum oomph. All vibrators that are used internally can also be used externally and using them during partnered sex can help you prioritize your pleasure too.
Massage Wands
These are the 2-in-1vibrators that double as a personal massager. They usually have a long handle, making it great for partnered sex or personal play.
Bullet Vibrators
If you want something more discreet than you can opt for a stripped down bullet vibrator. These small but mighty devices are great for travel or if you live with a roommate since they’re pretty quiet too. You lose out on a few settings but you get a lot of versatility by pairing it with other sex toys.
Rabbit Vibrators
This device is double trouble and gets its name from its smaller clitoral stimulating head and bigger penetrative head that make it look like bunny ears (kind of). This packs a punch and gives you a powerful blended orgasm which is great for personal and foreplay.
Wearable Vibrators
This option is great for couples since wearable devices are made to be worn on an erection or toy. If you’re planning on using it alone or only during foreplay it also seamlessly fits on your fingers.
Suction Vibrators
This one is different from the rest since it doesn’t have the conventional vibrating sensation the rest of the devices have. Suction vibrators focus on a rumbling sensation and pulses directly on your clit. This uses air technologies to mimic oral sex and give maximum pleasure. Some say they can even climax in under 2 minutes with these. But, it does take some getting used to to find the right spot since the sensation is so different. Try it out during partnered sex or when you’re having some alone time.
G-spot Vibrators
A g-spot vibrator is similar to a normal vibrator but it’s angled to help you get all the hard to reach places. Your g-spot is located a few inches deep on the front or top part of your vagina so it’s great to help you understand what feels good for you and lets you better communicate that during partnered sex.
Grinding Vibrator
These vibrators are the most different from the rest since they’re designed to be ridden. It lets you have more control over your body and get to know wehat feels right (which can be helpful when you’re on top during partnered sex). They’re also a great shape to put between two people during sex.
Introducing New Things in The Bedroom
When it comes down to really bringing things into the bedroom here’s some tips:
Be the expert. Make sure you get to know what you like and which device works best for you. Get to know what feels good so you can guide your partner when the time comes.
Talk it out. It’s best to bring up the topic when things aren’t hot and heavy to make sure your partner is open to and up for it. If insecurity does come up, reassure them that this is a way to add to the pleasure that you’re both feeling and explore new things with each other.
All in the prep. If you want to start slow, then try incorporating vibrators into foreplay and letting your partner get accustomed to using the sex toy with you. This can help them open up to the idea and see how much fun new additions can be.
When it all comes down to it, adding vibrators is all about communication. Being comfortable enough to bring up the conversation with your partner will bring a new sense of closeness to each other and help you keep things fresh. Spice things up today and check out Fonder’s collection of mini intimate devices.